Nice one hell, I didn't know you had it in you to be so deep, anyway you made a tiny mistake, I'm not posting that message so other people could make the decision for me or anything of that sort, the only thing I post this is, is just that I can get it out of my system writing about it works kinda relaxing for me, in the end it's my decision no matter what other people say.
And Yes I would give it a chance to be together, but the problem is she is having second toughts, doubts and shit so in the end it's up to her i can't force her....
And yes i'm 21 i'm gonna be 22 this year.
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I didn't say that you posted it so others could make the decision for you. I said you want an easy answer but in the end you'll be the only one who can make the decision. Exactly, your decision no matter what people say... I think I said that a few times, actually. No, I wasn't saying you truly thought we would give you your answer. I was saying you want us to tell you what you want to hear, basically.
That's the nature of seeking advice, people already know what they need to do, they just ask to either get reassurance from others who back up their decision, or they are simply asking to be told what they know they have to do but are having a hard time coming to terms with.
You're saying it's up to her, but you haven't made the proposition yet, so it's still up to both of you. You can't expect her to say yes or no, without first asking the question. So she's having second thoughts? So what? That's her decision. Your decision is not her decision and her decision is not your decision. You both have to decide whether you want to or not individually. And if you want to, then you put it on the table and allow her to think about it. Otherwise, she doesn't know whether you want to or not, and may be doing the same exact thing as you. The decision for you to both enter a relationship is up to both of you, but the decision to ask her is yours, and the decision for her to ask you is hers. And if neither of you ask, but both want to, then you both decided yes, but never said yes. So neither of you would still know, would you?
What I'm saying is: If you want to then ask her. If she wants to or doesn't want to after you ask her, she'll tell you. But first you have to ask, first you have to talk it over. If you can't talk things over as it is, then your relationship is doomed to fail until you learn how. All relationships depend on communication. If you ask her, and she says no, so what? It's just like I said in my last post. At least you asked, at least you brought it up. Don't be afraid of rejection. Asking doesn't automatically mean you'll enter a relationship, but you never will if neither of you bring it up at all.
You're right when you say you can't force her, but you also can't expect her to decide at all if you don't talk to her about it first. Right?
