(follow your heart! :P)
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...hopeless romantic at work....
:D
Wait, are you in Bosnia or Belgium? If you are in the Belgium, how are the waffles?
I agree with what has been said so far:
If you feel that way do something about it. Don't just sit around stressing yourself out, see if you can get the relationship to go somewhere.
Fling with some jerk from the U.S.? No problem, that will be over soon enough.
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I'm in belgium now, i'm originated from bosnia I go two times in a year to bosnia during summer and during the last weeks of december when it's newyear.
I don't know i don't like waffles....
I will do smt about it, I will when I go back to bosnia, I don't know if it will be possible to go in December now cuz i just graduated and if I find work it won't be possible because I have to save up (save up "vacation days" not money, money I have i'm still working in the restaurant that I had when I was a student) to take a long holiday in the summer....
I agree with most of the advice here as well, except for these two things:
*Long distance relationships don't work.
Long distance relationships just dont work.
Now, I agree that long distance relationships that are carried on for too long will eventually fail, if there are not enough visits... and they are completely fucked if there's not enough communication. But I do not agree that long distance relationships are bound to fail just because they are long distance, I think they could last for some time, at least, before ultimately ending in failure. But, the failure itself can be prevented, if the relationship can stay sturdy for long enough for you to do something about the distance.
I say this, because I have had a girlfriend for about a year and a quarter of another, living about 650 miles from me (Believe it or not, exactly 666 miles from my house to where she was living, according to google earth), before we did something about the distance, and now she's living with me and we're engaged to get married come April.
So, I think long distance relationships CAN work, just not forever... you have to do something about the distance before it's too late, but it doesn't have to be immediate.
My advice is to call her, right now. Or don't call at all and drop it, like Talon said.
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Yeah see I had this same idea.
Long distance relationships are hard but they aren't impossible I personally think that long distance relationships are more intresting because you both don't see eachother that much and when you do, you tend to spend the time with eachother more intimitly.
It's not the same when you are together with a girl that's close to you, you then see eachother more times and after a time you get the feeling like "been there done that" while when you are together with someone that's living further and when you see eachother it's more of a feeling that you really missed her and can't wait to spend time with her.
Offcourse you can't make this last forever and you do have to do something before it's too late so yeah, but I was planning this.
Allright I didn't call her but I did send her a message ( right after reading Talon's reply and she said that she's happy i didn't forget her :)), I can't call her just to the fact that's really expensive Bosnia is a country that's recovering from a war it's had, while Bosnia is fairly cheap when you are on vacation there, the calls to there are really expensive.
But in due time i'm going to make calls offcourse but for now we are just going to hear from eachother via sms.
And I didn't see anyone say here about the age? I mean for me it's no problem for the age i'm 21 she's 26.
I made peace with it, but I get the feeling that for her that is the problem.
What do you guys think about the age? and any suggestions how I should tell her that it isn't a problem?
BTW congratulations on the engagment Hell!
Yeah see I had this same idea.
Long distance relationships are hard but they aren't impossible I personally think that long distance relationships are more intresting because you both don't see eachother that much and when you do, you tend to spend the time with eachother more intimitly.
It's not the same when you are together with a girl that's close to you, you then see eachother more times and after a time you get the feeling like "been there done that" while when you are together with someone that's living further and when you see eachother it's more of a feeling that you really missed her and can't wait to spend time with her.
Offcourse you can't make this last forever and you do have to do something before it's too late so yeah, but I was planning this.
Allright I didn't call her but I did send her a message ( right after reading Talon's reply and she said that she's happy i didn't forget her :)), I can't call her just to the fact that's really expensive Bosnia is a country that's recovering from a war it's had, while Bosnia is fairly cheap when you are on vacation there, the calls to there are really expensive.
But in due time i'm going to make calls offcourse but for now we are just going to hear from eachother via sms.
And I didn't see anyone say here about the age? I mean for me it's no problem for the age i'm 21 she's 26.
I made peace with it, but I get the feeling that for her that is the problem.
What do you guys think about the age? and any suggestions how I should tell her that it isn't a problem?
BTW congratulations on the engagment Hell!
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I quite agree, that was how it was for my fiancé and I, I only ever got to visit her ONE time throughout that year and a quarter, the next time I saw her was when I was picking her up.
Well, that's fine, it was a long time before my fiancé and I ever called eachother, months after we first got into a relationship. We talked every day on forums, IM, and at night on the phone, for as long as 12 hours sometimes.
I don't see the age as a problem at all. You're both adults and 5 years isn't that big of a difference when you're older, and the older you get, the less it matters. That's how I see it. Now, if you were 17 and she was 24 or something, that would be a problem. lol. My girlfriend was 16 when I met her, and I was 18, I had to wait until she was 18 to do much... visits were almost impossible with her parents being the way they are, and lack of money. But she's 18 now and I'm 19, she's a year and a half younger than me. But the age was a problem for us, because of laws, you at least, don't have that problem.
Don't worry about telling her you don't feel that age is an issue, first worry about finding out her feelings towards you, and if they are the feelings you hope for, then start something, if it's working out good, then talk to her about that. If she really likes you, age may be something she still won't like, but it won't get in the way.
Thanks. :D
Age is nothing bud. :P I am about to be 23 and a few months ago, exclusively dated a woman 10 years older and after that lol. Saturday night I went out on a date with a woman who was about 14 years older lol. Older women rock. :P
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You know I experienced that too i've been with girls that were a year or two younger then me and I felt like we weren't on the same level.
Now on the vacation I dated girls that were a bit older then me and they really rocked much more fun and this time I felt like we were on the same "level" that's why I decided age shouldn't be a problem.
Don't worry about telling her you don't feel that age is an issue, first worry about finding out her feelings towards you, and if they are the feelings you hope for, then start something, if it's working out good, then talk to her about that. If she really likes you, age may be something she still won't like, but it won't get in the way.
Well yeah offcourse, but I will have to wait for that I mean I just can't do it over the phone i get the feeling that I have to do it when I see her because it's kinda personal and over the phone i don't know it just doesn't feel right...
because I have had a girlfriend for about a year and a quarter of another
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So, you have one whole girlfriend and a quarter of another girlfriend?
What do you guys think about the age?
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If you want to know my opinion about the difference in age of people in love I suggest you rent Harold and Maude (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0067185/).
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So, you have one whole girlfriend and a quarter of another girlfriend?
If you want to know my opinion about the difference in age of people in love I suggest you rent Harold and Maude (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0067185/).
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because I have had a girlfriend for about a year and a quarter of another
of another year... smartass. :rolleyes:
Well yeah offcourse, but I will have to wait for that I mean I just can't do it over the phone i get the feeling that I have to do it when I see her because it's kinda personal and over the phone i don't know it just doesn't feel right...
Depends on you, man. My fiancé told me over instant messenger, but that makes more sense since I met her on a forum. =)
As the only actual female who ever posts here any more, I feel bound to reply:
- Age differences don't have to be an issue, especially as you get older.
- Long-distance relationships are doomed in the long run.
- If she really truly dated you very recently, and is already dating another guy, she might (and please don't take this badly) be a skank.
And some more advice you aren't going to like: If you really really think you're in love with this woman, maybe you need to read Romeo and Juliet. How long were you even in the same city? How many hours did you spend with her? I mean, you only met her a month ago, how can you be sure it's truly love and not an infatuation?
Take your time, keep in contact with her (if she's receptive - no cyber-stalking!), and see how it goes.
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Nope we didn't date, because when I met her I was struggling with the age difference I wasn't sure about it by the time I decided it shouldn't be a issue she was allready gone (she lives like 3 hours away from me in Bosnia) so she isn't a skank lol.
We spended enough time for me to know that I like her and that we have the same intrests, I mean when I first met and saw her i tought "nope not my type" but as I got to know her, talked to her, saw what she likes/dislikes etc and it's that what I fell in love with as I saw how she was and all that's when....and i'm sure it's not a fling or infatuation because I never felt this way, i'm feeling sad that she's 1700km away from me, i'm a bit mad because i didn't react sooner of that stupid age difference....
and it's been over a month ago and I still feel the same way as before....
So... how many miles is that? LOL
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according to this site (http://www.derbyshireguide.co.uk/miles-into-kilometres.htm)
1700Km is 1056.33 miles....
so she isn't a skank lol.
Have fun proving all the things she isn't.
and it's been over a month ago and I still feel the same way as before....
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Oh, I see: you really *do* need to read Romeo and Juliet. Here's a free online version:
Romeo and Juliet thought it was love for "over a month" too.... (http://www.bartleby.com/70/index38.html)
If you can tell me in 5 years that you still feel the same way, I might concede it's love.
-Throbblefoot
PS- You didn't say how much time you spent together. Maybe we should start a betting pool. I'm going with 7 hours over 5 days....
Have fun proving all the things she isn't.
Oh, I see: you really *do* need to read Romeo and Juliet. Here's a free online version:
Romeo and Juliet thought it was love for "over a month" too.... (http://www.bartleby.com/70/index38.html)
If you can tell me in 5 years that you still feel the same way, I might concede it's love.
-Throbblefoot
PS- You didn't say how much time you spent together. Maybe we should start a betting pool. I'm going with 7 hours over 5 days....
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hmm, first of all why are you so sceptical about everything I say.
The time we spended together, was about 2-3 hours every day, one whole day at a pool, and one entire night at a party (that night was just talking, dancing nothing more lol) and that all spreaded over 5 days.
- Lord knows I wouldn't agree with Mo on principal.
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Ha!
:rolleyes:
Believe that my advice is sincere - Lord knows I wouldn't agree with Mo on principal.
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Girls are fubar? :lol:
Girls are fubar? :lol:
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Certainly they are :yes:
All I meant is that there's no telling what another person isn't.
I'm not skeptical about what you say, Razor. I'm skeptical about how many things seem just like love for the first year or five. Frankly, if you didn't date her, you should just leave her alone til you see her again on vacation, and hope for the best.
Believe that my advice is sincere - Lord knows I wouldn't agree with Mo on principal.
-Throbblefoot
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Thanks for the advice Throbble I know what you mean now.
BTW what's fubar?
Thanks for the advice Throbble I know what you mean now.
BTW what's fubar?
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fucked up beyond all recognition
BTW what's fubar?
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Oh I see, you only know acronyms that came after the internet. You know what "BTW" is but not "FUBAR"?!
Before the internet we had a little thing called the military, they liked to make acronyms out of everything.
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fucked up beyond all recognition
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Exactamundo! I concur with Mo on all points.
Exactamundo! I concur with Mo on all points.
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How can you not? :D
What do you have against girls Mo?? i mean seriously the way I see it you really but REALLY don't like them....?
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What the hell did you just say!? :huh:
What the hell did you just say!?
Girls are crazy mental cases. In case I didn't already mention that.
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Girls are fubar? :lol:
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Certainly they are :yes:
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lol....?
What do you have against girls Mo?? i mean seriously the way I see it you really but REALLY don't like them....?
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I love girls. Guess you're too young to appreciate their utter madness. It's not their fault. They are bound by biology to be emotional wrecks.
lol....?
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I was talking to you.
I love girls. Guess you're too young to appreciate their utter madness. It's not their fault. They are bound by biology to be emotional wrecks.
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Some are actually quite sensible, but most...-shakes head- nope.
If y'all were trying to date guys, you'd say guys were insane, fubar, etc. It's not that girls are crazy, it's that people in general are crazy. And a person's insanity becomes a lot more obvious when you're involved with them intimately.
And for what it's worth, guys are complete knuckleheads.
-Throbblefoot
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I agree with that as well. I know I am. lol.
If y'all were trying to date guys, you'd say guys were insane, fubar, etc. It's not that girls are crazy, it's that people in general are crazy. And a person's insanity becomes a lot more obvious when you're involved with them intimately.
And for what it's worth, guys are complete knuckleheads.
-Throbblefoot
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Alot of people think or have thought that I am insane... my fiance is one of the few who thinks there's nothing weird about me at all. :lol:
Alot of people think or have thought that I am insane...
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Pfft, in my family you aren't considered insane until you get written proof from a professional psychiatrist. Come to think of it, a majority of my family has never bothered to see one. Hmm.
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If y'all were trying to date guys, you'd say guys were insane, fubar, etc. It's not that girls are crazy, it's that people in general are crazy. And a person's insanity becomes a lot more obvious when you're involved with them intimately.
And for what it's worth, guys are complete knuckleheads.
-Throbblefoot
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Guys are way more rational than girls. Most girls even readily admit this. C'mon Throbble admit it!
Can you site any statistics? Do you have any actual evidence? Or is it true-confession style "My Girlfriend was a Teenage Werewolf"?
-Throbblefoot
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The battle of the sexes is certainly a non-scientific study. Sorry I don't have any case studies to site.
Pfft, in my family you aren't considered insane until you get written proof from a professional psychiatrist. Come to think of it, a majority of my family has never bothered to see one. Hmm.
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But I'm sure you have, correct? :wacko:
But I'm sure you have, correct?
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Hell no! I'm not giving them the chance to drag me off to some padded cell with my hands strapped behind my back! I've been to plenty of "psychologists" (the ones that can't prescribe drugs) but that stopped after the last one decided that my mom was the one that needed counseling, not me.
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Pfft, in my family you aren't considered insane until you get written proof from a professional psychiatrist. Come to think of it, a majority of my family has never bothered to see one. Hmm.
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Well, I am not insane anyway. :lol:
Can you site any statistics? Do you have any actual evidence? Or is it true-confession style "My Girlfriend was a Teenage Werewolf"?
I believe he is basing his opinion off of personal experience and quite possibly the experiences of others and/or their opinions.
To be honest, most teenage girls I've met or been around up here are just as he explains, even alot of younger ones in their early 20's. Emotional wrecks... and then the "I am happy-go-lucky... I'm confused as shit but I know what I'm talking about... shit I have no idea what I'm talking about... NO I AM RIGHT YOU ARE WRONG! [pissy attitude here].... [suddenly happy again]...[sad]....[cocky]...[angry]...[cocky]...[happy]...[cocky]..." thing they got going.
My friend Chris (he's almost 50 now) claims that "all women are bi-polar." lol.
Now, I don't think all women are like this... especially as age cometh... but goddamn...
Pretty much I will take you up on your offer you mentioned a while ago; You move out and and still pay your half.
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Who's name is on the lease?
Seriously, if connections are to be severed there should be no financial obligations from either of you. If she can't afford the place by herself she needs to find a place within her budget.
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I have an obligation to the landlord to uphold so I will finish out the lease. I will stand by my original offer to her only to keep things as civil as possible and again to make best on my obligation to the landlord. What ever she chooses to do is a reflection on her character. If I hadn't quit my job (with Frito-Lay) and wasn't planning a six month hiking trip I'd be able to afford this 3 bedroom apartment no problem.
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Fulfill your legal obligation and then cut it all loose.
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I'm starting to have mood swings now, one day i'm happy and all dunno why just because I found a good job and that i'm enjoying it and all, the next day however I'm feeling down, depressed, sad that i'm not with her and all I mean seriously weird shit...?
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Ah, good, then you're still sane.
Anywho... it's starting to sound more like obsession than 'love.'
Anywho... it's starting to sound more like obsession than 'love.'
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Now that you say it.....it does kinda....ain't that bad....?
She's a waste of time. Find someone who lives in your country.
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Seconded.
She's a waste of time. Find someone who lives in your country.
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Believe me the tought has crossed my mind alot, but the problem is I don't like any girl I know, or that I am friends with, hell even my old exes I can't see anymore why I liked them or why I was together with them....
Believe me the tought has crossed my mind alot, but the problem is I don't like any girl I know, or that I am friends with, hell even my old exes I can't see anymore why I liked them or why I was together with them....
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Then focus on school or work. Go out meet people. Try online dating even. You'll find someone else quite fast.
Then focus on school or work. Go out meet people. Try online dating even. You'll find someone else quite fast.
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Yeah. And just like alot of things, it pops up the second you walk away. What I mean by that is, once you think "Ah fuckit, fuck love, I don't need/want anyone, I've got better things to worry about." Someone pops up that you fall in love with. And Mo is right, it happens pretty fast. The only times I've noticed it doesn't is when one chooses to ignore what's right in front of them.
Then focus on school or work. Go out meet people. Try online dating even. You'll find someone else quite fast.
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I just found work and when i work I don't think about her...well not the whole time lol, dunno online dating never tried it heh, might give it a go...
Either I leave or you leave and we still hold up to our half of the rent each month. Pretty much I will take you up on your offer you mentioned a while ago; You move out and and still pay your half. Who ever stays can keep up with the other bills.
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If shes forcing the situation (as it appears), then she has to leave.
There is no way in the world that you should be expected to pay 1/2 the rent for a property you have been told you are no longer welcome in (and its your name on the lease!!!).
If shes dull (or desperate) enough to suggest that she will continue to pay the rent on a new place in addition to continue to pay her half for your place then let her at it - but you stay where you are.
Plus, if she refuses to pay when she leaves, you could always go on judge judy and let us all have a good laugh :)
If shes forcing the situation (as it appears), then she has to leave.
There is no way in the world that you should be expected to pay 1/2 the rent for a property you have been told you are no longer welcome in (and its your name on the lease!!!).
If shes dull (or desperate) enough to suggest that she will continue to pay the rent on a new place in addition to continue to pay her half for your place then let her at it - but you stay where you are.
Plus, if she refuses to pay when she leaves, you could always go on judge judy and let us all have a good laugh :)
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Speaking of which, get her agreement down on paper!
For added bonus have a witness sign as well.
If shes forcing the situation (as it appears), then she has to leave.
There is no way in the world that you should be expected to pay 1/2 the rent for a property you have been told you are no longer welcome in (and its your name on the lease!!!).
If shes dull (or desperate) enough to suggest that she will continue to pay the rent on a new place in addition to continue to pay her half for your place then let her at it - but you stay where you are.
Plus, if she refuses to pay when she leaves, you could always go on judge judy and let us all have a good laugh :)
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I know you watch that shit.
I just seen an episode on that not long ago. Same shit, different story. :lol:
That would be escalating the situation and creating mistrust which I'm trying to avoid. It was my proposition to her to move into the apartment and my decision to end the relationship. To make this easier I intend to uphold my financial obligation.
She is an emotional person who chooses to act before thinking as a result the tension between us is worse due to the letter that she now regrets giving me.
I'm living in my dad's basement which I eventually was going to have to do anyway just 6 months sooner. She has found a roommate that is going to pay some of the rent.
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Seriously dude, you are being ripped off. Don't let "emotional" people walk all over you. Their parents let them get whatever they wanted when thy threw a tantrum and now, as adults, they are just emotional blackmailers.
For a great example check out that stupid woman who got dragged out of the senate after General Petraeus spoke. Look how old you can be and still be a little brat.
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Nah just money I'm giving up and I'm well aware of what's going on. I have people behind me too.
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Are you in a gang or is this some sort of 'anal' confession? :lol:
Sick jokes aside, what do you mean by 'what's going on?'
Sick jokes aside, what do you mean by 'what's going on?'
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Probably referring to the "emotional blackmailer" comment.
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You sir are an idiot.
I like it.
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That's cause you're an idiot too. :lol:
Apparantly when I was in love i tought "there's no one else then her" but after tonight dunno all kinda changed.
I decided to find a nice girl here that's close to me and start a serious thing.
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You sound like a typical teenager when you say that. You're 20 somethin' though, right? :D
Start a serious thing? You'd be better off starting casual, and then both of you deciding to move to serious if casual is working out.
You sound like a typical teenager when you say that. You're 20 somethin' though, right? :D
Start a serious thing? You'd be better off starting casual, and then both of you deciding to move to serious if casual is working out.
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lol why and yes i'm 20 i'll be 21 13th of November.
Then grow up, bitch! =P
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hey, i'm growing i can't speed time, besides me wanting a serious relationship at this "young" age doesn't that show a bit growing up?
hey, i'm growing i can't speed time, besides me wanting a serious relationship at this "young" age doesn't that show a bit growing up?
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I wanted a serious relationship at 14. :lol:
Time doesn't cause you to grow. You don't need time to grow, you simply grow in time. But the phrase I used "grow up" is more commonly treated as "act your age," respectively.
I was just giving you shit anyway.
I wanted a serious relationship at 14. :lol:
Time doesn't cause you to grow. You don't need time to grow, you simply grow in time. But the phrase I used "grow up" is more commonly treated as "act your age," respectively.
I was just giving you shit anyway.
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stop giving me shit.... :D
I don't wan't that shit....
lmfao, dude. You seriously need to chill out a bit. Obviously you want to have a relationship with her. You might think it could be hard, you may think the age difference has a huge impact, but you nonetheless want to hook up with her. You can't deny that with how many times you've made it obvious. So with that in mind, just fucking do it. If every single time she is going to so much as talk to you, you're going to think about her for days on end, then just get it over with. So she is older, true, but so what? You've both reached an age where age itself doesn't matter quite as much. People change alot, so age difference will have an affect, but between 22 and 26 there's not too much difference, it's only 4 years. As for distance, if you're together distantly, for a long time, your bond will probably be stronger when you do get to be together. If you don't end up having it work out and are still distant, then at least you don't have to suffer seperation when your bond is the strongest.
From what I see, there's no reason you shouldn't try if you want to. The only things that you say are getting in the way are only in the way if you're afraid of getting hurt. (Afraid of it not working translates into afraid of getting hurt. Because, if it not working doesn't hurt, then you would have nothing to be afraid of, would you?)
The way you make your post is as though you are simply looking for people to encourage you to go for it, you want the green light. You want the green light because you actually do want to go for it. You're not actually going to decide to do it or not based on what we tell you, you're just wanting an easy answer to something you can only decide yourself.
No matter how you look at it, it's your decision, and what you choose to do is going to be almost if not completely uninfluenced by most of what we tell you. In the end, you're just procrastinating and holding the decision off for later. Eventually you may not be able to make a decision any longer and have it made for you, when she ends up moving away or you somehow lose touch with her completely and never hear from her again. At that point, you'll have wished you made a decision before it was too late, even if you've gotten over her.
Long and short: You want to. So do it. If you do, and it fails: Oh well, that happens; welcome to life. =)
P.S. Anyway, I thought you were 21? :huh:
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Nice one hell, I didn't know you had it in you to be so deep, anyway you made a tiny mistake, I'm not posting that message so other people could make the decision for me or anything of that sort, the only thing I post this is, is just that I can get it out of my system writing about it works kinda relaxing for me, in the end it's my decision no matter what other people say.
And Yes I would give it a chance to be together, but the problem is she is having second toughts, doubts and shit so in the end it's up to her i can't force her....
And yes i'm 21 i'm gonna be 22 this year.
Nice one hell, I didn't know you had it in you to be so deep, anyway you made a tiny mistake, I'm not posting that message so other people could make the decision for me or anything of that sort, the only thing I post this is, is just that I can get it out of my system writing about it works kinda relaxing for me, in the end it's my decision no matter what other people say.
And Yes I would give it a chance to be together, but the problem is she is having second toughts, doubts and shit so in the end it's up to her i can't force her....
And yes i'm 21 i'm gonna be 22 this year.
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I didn't say that you posted it so others could make the decision for you. I said you want an easy answer but in the end you'll be the only one who can make the decision. Exactly, your decision no matter what people say... I think I said that a few times, actually. No, I wasn't saying you truly thought we would give you your answer. I was saying you want us to tell you what you want to hear, basically. :lol:
That's the nature of seeking advice, people already know what they need to do, they just ask to either get reassurance from others who back up their decision, or they are simply asking to be told what they know they have to do but are having a hard time coming to terms with.
You're saying it's up to her, but you haven't made the proposition yet, so it's still up to both of you. You can't expect her to say yes or no, without first asking the question. So she's having second thoughts? So what? That's her decision. Your decision is not her decision and her decision is not your decision. You both have to decide whether you want to or not individually. And if you want to, then you put it on the table and allow her to think about it. Otherwise, she doesn't know whether you want to or not, and may be doing the same exact thing as you. The decision for you to both enter a relationship is up to both of you, but the decision to ask her is yours, and the decision for her to ask you is hers. And if neither of you ask, but both want to, then you both decided yes, but never said yes. So neither of you would still know, would you?
What I'm saying is: If you want to then ask her. If she wants to or doesn't want to after you ask her, she'll tell you. But first you have to ask, first you have to talk it over. If you can't talk things over as it is, then your relationship is doomed to fail until you learn how. All relationships depend on communication. If you ask her, and she says no, so what? It's just like I said in my last post. At least you asked, at least you brought it up. Don't be afraid of rejection. Asking doesn't automatically mean you'll enter a relationship, but you never will if neither of you bring it up at all.
You're right when you say you can't force her, but you also can't expect her to decide at all if you don't talk to her about it first. Right?
I didn't say that you posted it so others could make the decision for you. I said you want an easy answer but in the end you'll be the only one who can make the decision. Exactly, your decision no matter what people say... I think I said that a few times, actually. No, I wasn't saying you truly thought we would give you your answer. I was saying you want us to tell you what you want to hear, basically. :lol:
That's the nature of seeking advice, people already know what they need to do, they just ask to either get reassurance from others who back up their decision, or they are simply asking to be told what they know they have to do but are having a hard time coming to terms with.
You're saying it's up to her, but you haven't made the proposition yet, so it's still up to both of you. You can't expect her to say yes or no, without first asking the question. So she's having second thoughts? So what? That's her decision. Your decision is not her decision and her decision is not your decision. You both have to decide whether you want to or not individually. And if you want to, then you put it on the table and allow her to think about it. Otherwise, she doesn't know whether you want to or not, and may be doing the same exact thing as you. The decision for you to both enter a relationship is up to both of you, but the decision to ask her is yours, and the decision for her to ask you is hers. And if neither of you ask, but both want to, then you both decided yes, but never said yes. So neither of you would still know, would you?
What I'm saying is: If you want to then ask her. If she wants to or doesn't want to after you ask her, she'll tell you. But first you have to ask, first you have to talk it over. If you can't talk things over as it is, then your relationship is doomed to fail until you learn how. All relationships depend on communication. If you ask her, and she says no, so what? It's just like I said in my last post. At least you asked, at least you brought it up. Don't be afraid of rejection. Asking doesn't automatically mean you'll enter a relationship, but you never will if neither of you bring it up at all.
You're right when you say you can't force her, but you also can't expect her to decide at all if you don't talk to her about it first. Right?
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You're right hell, thanks for the advice i'll think about your words too.
I didn't know she knows your family.
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ehm....if she's the best friend of my niece....and my niece is my niece so I can't see why she wouldn't know of my familly....?
ehm....if she's the best friend of my niece....and my niece is my niece so I can't see why she wouldn't know of my familly....?
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Right. That much is obvious. Now after re-reading my question notice it states that *I* didn't know that she knew your family. Meaning that I can not recall you ever mentioning that before.
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Right. That much is obvious. Now after re-reading my question notice it states that *I* didn't know that she knew your family. Meaning that I can not recall you ever mentioning that before.
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Maybe I forgot to mention it, but she knows us for now it's gonna be 3 years but she knows me for 2 years cuz, 3 years ago i didn't go with my parents on holiday I wanted to be home alone for 4 weeks and party day in day out lol (that's the first time with a girl i had you know what.) anyway that's about it.
What? Sex? Lmfao. "had you know what" he says. :lol:
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LoL i dunno if I could use the S-word here but yeah the first time I had sex lol....